While being single can be a lot of fun, sometimes it can also make you feel excluded from some experiences. For example, I have been afraid to go to a concert of theater solo. I imagined it would feel awkward and lonely to go to a place where I would be surrounded by couples and groups of friends.
But you know what? At the end of the day, it is things we don't do that we regret the most. So, I decided to bite the bullet and bought tickets - one to a Russian rock concert and one to a ballet. And I went!
It was scary, yes. But only before I got there. Once I got to the concert, for example, my attention went to enjoying the venue and the music. I even met some new people, two of which really stood out. They were two women in their 50's who admitted they were too afraid to do things alone. They said they would rather be on the couch than go out alone.
They have been sitting their whole lives waiting for a man to do things with, and if he didn't want to go, they wouldn't either!
This got me thinking. Do they even want to be with their husbands or do they settle just so they don't face their own company?
And what's so bad with your own company anyway? I got to have fun, meet people and listen to music, just like everyone else.
No one cast a stone at me for being their alone. Not one person pointed a finger or laughed (which wouldn't really bother me anyway, since it would be the reflection of the other person's internal pain)
Instead, a man came up to me and said I looked beautiful and asked me to dance. Someone commented how I inspired them to do things they actually want to do and not put that desire away.
A few days later someone messaged me on Instagram and said that my post inspired him. After a few messages back and forth, he asked me out on a date. Wowza. What a turn of events, right?
But regardless of the outcome, I want to advise to not let your life pass you by just because you don't have a companion!
Be your own best friend and go out! Enjoy your life!
Of course, I would love to have a significant other take me, but until he shows up, I am going to LIVE my life instead of merely exist in waiting.
If you are tempted to break out of your fear and do something new, but not sure how, here is my Z-TIP:
IMAGINE & PRETEND!
Imagine a character you would love to play. Someone who is fearless and fun. Then pretend to play that character. Walk into the room, playing that person. Look at the world from their eyes. See what it feels like. Really sense that feeling and get familiar with it. Then try to live your life from that space - of courage and excitement. Over time you will stop pretending and start embodying that new energy.
So, please go out and LIVE, even if you have had fears! Your mind may be afraid, but keep those feet moving anyway :)
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