One of the biggest challenges my clients face when they start working with me is discovering that deep inside them there is a voice that sabotages their successes. Somewhere deep inside there is a voice that keeps telling them that they are not good enough, that they are not loved, that they are not worthy of love, that they are weak, that they don't deserve to be happy, that they are bad and that they need to change themselves in order to be happy. If this is something that you find yourself dealing with, then I would like to offer you one exercise that may help you.
Take a few minutes to imagine standing at the new-born room at the hospital, looking at the little babies that are only a couple of days old. Look at them, study their faces. Can you point out which baby you think should be worthy of having a great life and which baby should be doomed to suffer? Probably not. Most likely you are thinking that each baby deserves all the happiness in the world. Now, imagine that you are at the hospital where YOU were born and you are looking at yourself as a baby. Do you think that you were enough then? Do you think you were worthy of having it all at that moment? I say you did and guess what, you still do!
Now, you may be thinking: "But Alina, you don't know me. You don't know about all the bad things I've done, all the horrible thoughts I've had, all the terrible things I've said!" You are right, I don't know about those. But the truth is, that NOBODY is perfect. We are human. It is human to do bad things and to have bad thoughts. We all have faults and we all fail at times. However, shaming yourself and feeling guilty is not a way to redeem yourself. What you CAN do, is:
1. Write down all the things you think prevent you from feeling worthy
2. Read each one out loud and then take full responsibility of your actions by:
a. Accepting that you have done what you did and realize that it wasn't the right thing to do. Make a commitment to not
repeat that action.
b. If possible, do something to correct that action right now. Make a list of things that you can DO to redeem your
3. Look at yourself in the mirror and feel yourself be present in the moment. Realize where you are right now in time and space. Notice how your body feels. Give gratitude for your body and spirit. Take notice that you are the same being as you were when you were born and you are still worthy of happiness!
4. Make a list of actions you can do to create a vibrant future! Go for it! This is the only life you have to live in this body - make it a great one!
And if you still feel that there is something that is still holding you back, then email or call me to get support. I work with clients all over the world on the phone, via skype and in person and I will be happy to help you break free and achieve your the health goals. Remember that your essence is of a lovable, beautiful, worthy human-being and if there were actions to prove otherwise, then there are counter-actions that can bring you back to your true self. Let Yourself Blossom!
With all my love,
Have you ever eaten the entire piece cake on your plate even though you were full half-way? Or maybe even went for the seconds or thirds? I know it has happened to me many times and I am not alone in this. It is not uncommon for people to think: "What the heck. I was good all day. I might as well let go and eat what I want while I can." Sound familiar?
The funny thing is the same people can be very good at going to shop at their favorite stores with credit cards in hand and not buy 30 sweaters in one trip. Why is it that we can control ourselves with not going over the limit of our credit cards, but we can over eat?
I believe the answer is in the word "restricting." If you focus on holding yourself back, then that's all you can think of. The voice in your head keeps saying "don't do this" and "don't eat that." And when the voice points to something, then it's all we can think of. Usually there is no such a voice when you go to the store. That's because knowing our monetary budgets can become a second-nature to us. We simply had to learn it and then it became a habit. Now we just take them as part of life and indulge accordingly. No guilt or shame.
If you are struggling with overeating, but you are good with credit cards, then see what shopping behaviors you can apply towards food. Notice where your attention goes. See what emotions are moving you towards overeating. If it to indulge because you were restricting yourself all day, then stop the restriction part in the first place and allow your body to tell you what nutrition it really wants. Most importantly, realize that if you are the one with the power to control your spending, then you also have the power to find balance in your eating habits.
Two days ago I went to hear Wayne Dyer speak about the Art of Manifestation. It was a great event and I enjoyed it tremendously. While there were many great points that he covered, I want to share one that I think will resonate with those who are great at buying what they want, but not manifesting new things in life. I will add a little bit to it, so not to take Wayne's idea completely, but the concept is exactly what I know to be true.
Imagine a non-English speaking foreigner who offers you a million dollars and takes you to the mall to spend it all. You walk over to a shop and see the ugliest pair of shoes you've ever seen. You stand in front of them and keep talking how ugly they are and how much you hate them. You keep complaining about them, only to see that the foreign millionaire is buying them for you. He can't tell if you are saying that you hate them or love. All he can recognize is that if you are spending a lot of time and energy on these shoes, then you must want it.
As you go by the mall, you notice that everything you pay a lot of attention to ends up in your shopping cart. After a while, the cart is full of things, some of which you love, buts lots of them you hate and you wonder why...
The same principle applies to life. The universe doesn't speak a particular language as it only communicates with us through our energy. Whatever we focus our energy on, we get more of. Yes, there are things that we don't like, but we won't be able to change some of them by complaining about them. And yes, we can take action and do something about the situation, but there are some things that we just have to allow to exist. We just have to let them be what they are.
However, we can change how we react to things that we have no control over as we can change our energy and its focus. Think about it... What's the use of complaining about something that you can't change anyway? On the other hand, if you focus your energy, time, thoughts, feelings, whatever you can, on what you want more of, I have no doubt in my mind that you can receive it. The trick is trusting the fact that if it worked for millions of people, it can work for you. So look at your energy as the money -- spend it only on those things you love... hmm... maybe a pair of hot new Valentino pumps?
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