During our wellness retreat to Taos, NM, a wise teacher shared the following words "Happiness is the balance between joy and sorrow." Unlike a common belief that happiness is all about having fun, this thought gave me a more realistic view on life. Funny enough, the phrase came in handy this morning when a friend of mine called me to talk about her breakup with her boyfriend. I could feel the heartache across the telephone line as she shared how wonderful it has been to spend time with him and how hard it was for her to let him go.
I know how difficult it can be to let go of someone or something that made you happy. The pain can take over your whole body as you think that life will never be as bright as it used to be. But if you stop for a moment and listen to your heart, you may recognize that those things or people may not bring you the same joy in the future. All of a sudden, I thought about cheesecake (my friend's favorite dessert). I know it may be shocking to think about dessert at a situation like this, but hear me out.
Think about this... you are eating a cheesecake for dessert and you are enjoying every single morsel of it. All of a sudden it is finished and you can't help but look back a few minutes to remember the taste. You know that you won't be eating cheesecake for a while and you already start to miss it. But then imagine, that someone tells you that you must each cheesecake for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Nothing else but cheesecake. Maybe the first 2 days will be fun, but I am pretty sure that most of us will get sick of the sweetness and we will want something savory. Notice that nothing about cheesecake has changed, but your perspective is now different. Once we were allowed to have as much of something as we want, our attitudes change.
There is a point when some things run their course and it is not necessarily a bad thing. Without some sorrow in our lives, we will not be able to appreciate the good. So, when we are faced with a situation that we don't enjoy, perhaps the best thing to do is to take a deep breath and to consciously allow it to happen. I strongly believe that many cases of emotional eating can be cured if people allow themselves to have whatever they think they want. What's meant to happen, will happen anyway, so why not allow it? Chances are, however, that when we allow ourselves to have something, we may look at it in a different light, see it for what it is and actually not want it any more.
If you are struggling with your health, I hope this post will also help you get through difficult parts on your path and give you strength it to keep going. Remember that having too much even of a good thing is not so good. Find your balance. Savor every good moment that you get to enjoy and simply accept the not-so-good ones. You may find that the less you let the world stress you, the faster you will become happier and healthier.
Why ask me?
- After many challenges and different crazy life experiences I am living my dream life and since my friends say I am pretty wisdomous and I think I am a little bit funny too, I want to share my life approach with you so you can live the life you love as well.
Here is a little bit about me:
- I am a creator of #1 Best Diet as selected by Harpers Baazar Magazine
- I started my career in the corporate world and didn't even know how to peel a shallot
- I have been a chef for celebrities for over 10 years
- I have a realistic approach to food and life
- I have a great relationship with food and can even let chocolate go bad because I simply forget I have it at home (something I wasn't able to do 10 years ago)
- I eat carbs whenever I feel like it without any guilt
- I used to hate to cook and now absolutely love being a private chef and a food relationship coach
- I wear whatever clothes I desire no matter what everyone is wearing or thinking
- I am in good shape and my body’s biological age is 13 years younger than the one in my passport
- I have experience being super poor, super wealthy and in between
- I’ve worked in corporate world and am now an entrepreneur
- I was married and divorced
- I used to cry going to work because I was so miserable with my boss
- I’ve had an emotional eating disorder
- I moved from Russia to USA alone at the age of 15
- I’ve lived in Russia, Europe and on both coasts of USA
- I have been super skinny and overweight
- I have been insecure and unhappy with reasons and secure and happy for no reason
- I used to wear glasses and healed my eyes with the power of thought and exercises
- I created "Couture Nutrition®" so you can have tailor-made solutions for your body and soul
- My brain usually comes up with jokes to soften stressful situations
- I think color coordination, sparkles and rainbows are underused