The end of the cheesecake

During our wellness retreat to Taos, NM, a wise teacher shared the following words "Happiness is the balance between joy and sorrow." Unlike a common belief that happiness is all about having fun, this thought gave me a more realistic view on life. Funny enough, the phrase  came in handy this morning when a friend of mine called me to talk about her breakup with her boyfriend. I could feel the heartache across the telephone line as she shared how wonderful it has been to spend time with him and how hard it was for her to let him go. 

I know how difficult it can be to let go of someone or something that made you happy. The pain can take over your whole body as you think that life will never be as bright as it used to be. But if you stop for a moment and listen to your heart, you may recognize that those things or people may not bring you the same joy in the future. All of a sudden, I thought about cheesecake (my friend's favorite dessert). I know it may be shocking to think about dessert at a situation like this, but hear me out.

Think about this... you are eating a cheesecake for dessert and you are enjoying every single morsel of it. All of a sudden it is finished and you can't help but look back a few minutes to remember the taste. You know that you won't be eating cheesecake for a while and you already start to miss it. But then imagine, that someone tells you that you must each cheesecake for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Nothing else but cheesecake. Maybe the first 2 days will be fun, but I am pretty sure that most of us will get sick of the sweetness and we will want something savory. Notice that nothing about cheesecake has changed, but your perspective is now different. Once we were allowed to have as much of something as we want, our attitudes change. 

There is a point when some things run their course and it is not necessarily a bad thing. Without some sorrow in our lives, we will not be able to appreciate the good. So, when we are faced with a situation that we don't enjoy, perhaps the best thing to do is to take a deep breath and to consciously allow it to happen. I strongly believe that many cases of emotional eating can be cured if people allow themselves to have whatever they think they want. What's meant to happen, will happen anyway, so why not allow it? Chances are, however, that when we allow ourselves to have something, we may look at it in a different light, see it for what it is and actually not want it any more.

If you are struggling with your health, I hope this post will also help you get through difficult parts on your path and give you strength it to keep going.  Remember that having too much even of a good thing is not so good. Find your balance. Savor every good moment that you get to enjoy and simply accept the not-so-good ones.  You may find that the less you let the world stress you, the faster you will become happier and healthier.