Yesterday I was chatting with a woman who is interested in losing weight, when she said that she doesn't have the willpower to stick to a healthy lifestyle. However, about 30 minutes after our conversation she decided to go for a smoke. This made me smile because she actually just demonstrated very strong willpower.
Let me explain. Often times people tell me that I must have a strong willpower and discipline to eat healthy. But it really doesn't take more willpower than smoking. Actually, smoking takes more. Just think about it: You need to always remember to buy cigarettes, make sure you have the lighter or the matches, switch cigarettes and matches when you switch purses and refill the matches and the lighter. You need to remember to smoke often enough and you also have to look for appropriate spaces to smoke, so that's a lot of effort. And cigarettes aren't cheap either. Smoking 2 packs a week will cost you a pair of Jimmy Choos! But why do people do it? Because they like the effect of smoking. It is simple as that.
The same applies to eating healthy and exercising. You eat right and exercise to stay healthy because it feels good. Because it lets you live longer. Because you get to have more energy so that you can do more things during the day. That's the motivation. But if you are looking to shed a few extra pounds just because you want to fit into a pair of skinny jeans, that may not be the motivation enough. You need to gig deeper and find that feeling you will get once you slim down.
So, if you are think you want to be healthy, but don't think you have the willpower, focus on the reasons behind wanting to be healthy. Find the worth of the health you want and follow your passion to getting it!
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