So, I have a confession to make. Even though I know how bad sugar is for me, I was still eating sweets (although many were healthy-ish) more often than I would like to. Saying "NO" to myself worked once in a while, but then as most of us know, we usually give in to the craving. So, I spent a bit of time wondering why is it that even when we know something is bad for us, we still do it anyway?
A few blogs ago I talked about looking at sugar as you would look at an attractive significant other that physically abuses you. In that entry I suggested that we should simply break-up with this addiction like you would with a person. Respect yourself and stop the contact. Then find a healthy, kind-to-your-body replacement. So, I tried doing that. I let a healthy banana-coconut tiramisu into my life and we shared a few wonderful moments. Sure, it was great, but when that tiramisu wasn't available and I was out to eat, that old, familiar taste of a hot, gooey brownie with vanilla ice cream was just irresistible. Why in the world was I not able to stop getting myself involved with it?
All of a sudden, I started thinking about my friend who used to be in a relationship with a someone that wasn't very good to her. Yet, she couldn't help but go back to spend time together even after they officially broke up. She missed their times together and couldn't stop thinking about the past. Until she met an amazing guy who adores her and showers her with love. Then the old flame magically got extinguished and she focused on a new relationship.
Translating that into the world of food, at first I thought the right replacement for un-healthy sugars was a healthy alternative. However, I realized that solutions was still being too shallow and that all this time I wasn't giving complex carbs the time of day and attention they deserved. And it was in the hidden energy of grains like quinoa and brown rice where I found peace and ended my need to have sugar before it even started. The truth is, whether we like it or not, we need carbs to give us energy and if we aren't getting enough of the good ones, then our bodies will crave the sugary ones!
Of course in the beginning it was hard switching gears and getting used to this new relationship. I wasn't used to preparing and eating grains as often as I needed to. So, it took discipline -- 2 times a week for about 5 mins, to be exact (the time that it requires to rinse the grains and put them on the stove). But in the end, it was all well worth it. My body is now fully satisfied with the delicious purple rice (often known as forbidden rice), mutli-colored quinoa and millet. Turns out that they were exactly what I needed and now I am steadily forgetting about the dangerous affairs with high-sugar foods.
I hope that you take some time to think of what your body is truly craving and find the right foods that will satisfy you. They will be different for everyone, but trust me, your body isn't really craving brownies at 3pm -- it is craving energy. Unless you introduce a new food into your life, chances are you will be getting the same old result that is not making you happy. After all,if you want something you don't have, you need to do something you are not doing.
Why ask me?
- After many challenges and different crazy life experiences I am living my dream life and since my friends say I am pretty wisdomous and I think I am a little bit funny too, I want to share my life approach with you so you can live the life you love as well.
Here is a little bit about me:
- I am a creator of #1 Best Diet as selected by Harpers Baazar Magazine
- I started my career in the corporate world and didn't even know how to peel a shallot
- I have been a chef for celebrities for over 10 years
- I have a realistic approach to food and life
- I have a great relationship with food and can even let chocolate go bad because I simply forget I have it at home (something I wasn't able to do 10 years ago)
- I eat carbs whenever I feel like it without any guilt
- I used to hate to cook and now absolutely love being a private chef and a food relationship coach
- I wear whatever clothes I desire no matter what everyone is wearing or thinking
- I am in good shape and my body’s biological age is 13 years younger than the one in my passport
- I have experience being super poor, super wealthy and in between
- I’ve worked in corporate world and am now an entrepreneur
- I was married and divorced
- I used to cry going to work because I was so miserable with my boss
- I’ve had an emotional eating disorder
- I moved from Russia to USA alone at the age of 15
- I’ve lived in Russia, Europe and on both coasts of USA
- I have been super skinny and overweight
- I have been insecure and unhappy with reasons and secure and happy for no reason
- I used to wear glasses and healed my eyes with the power of thought and exercises
- I created "Couture Nutrition®" so you can have tailor-made solutions for your body and soul
- My brain usually comes up with jokes to soften stressful situations
- I think color coordination, sparkles and rainbows are underused